Master: The ego is the false sense of “I,” created by the mind. It is a product of identification with thoughts, emotions, and external roles. It believes that it is separate from others, and this creates the illusion of duality.
Disciple: But if the ego is an illusion, why does it feel so real?
Master: The ego feels real because it is constantly fed by your thoughts and beliefs. The mind identifies with the body, with labels, with possessions, and with the stories it tells itself. But the truth is, you are not the ego. You are the awareness that watches the ego, the consciousness that observes without judgment.
Disciple: How do I recognize this true self?
Master: The true self is not found in thoughts, labels, or actions. It is the silent awareness that is present before the mind creates its stories. Begin by observing your thoughts and emotions without identifying with them. Notice that you are the one who is aware of them.
Disciple: But the ego has been with me my whole life. How do I begin to let it go?
Master: The ego cannot be eliminated; it can only be seen for what it is: a transient force. By practicing awareness, you begin to disidentify from the ego and live more fully in the present moment. You realize that you are not your thoughts, your emotions, or your role in society. You are the unchanging witness, the awareness behind everything.
Disciple: Does this mean the ego will never fully disappear?
Master: The ego is a tool, not an enemy. It is useful in navigating the world, but it should not be your master. When you become aware of the ego’s workings, you no longer allow it to control your actions and thoughts. You realize that the ego is a passing wave on the ocean of your true self, the vast expanse of consciousness.
Disciple: So, I am the consciousness, not the ego?
Master: Yes, you are the consciousness, the awareness that is always present. The ego is just a temporary identity you associate with, but it is not the essence of who you are. To realize your true self, you must move beyond identification with the ego and rest in the pure awareness that has always been with you.
Excerpt from the book "The Wisdom of Consciousness" by Ervin K. Kery